3 REASON WHY MARRIAGE FAILS

There are more than just 3 reasons why marriages fail, but these are some of the biggest reasons why marriages fail. Chances are that they are reasons you may not have even thought about before. Pay attention to these reasons and you will have an upper hand over most people.

The first of the reasons why marriages fail is simple. The people in the relationship don't know who is coming into the marriage, and I am not talking about the person you married, I am talking about you. How can you ever love someone else, or expect someone else to love you, if you don't love yourself or know who the person you want them to love is. You have to take the time to develop a relationship with yourself first, and love that person and relationship if you ever hope for your marriage to be successful. This is the reason why so many marriages fail for people who marry in their late teens to early twenties.

The second reason is that the two people focus on the wrong things. Money is a huge reason why most married people argue. Why I am not sure because there is no point in arguing over something that you can't fix in this moment. If there isn't enough, there isn't enough. Now if one is not working but spends then we have a reason. But if both work, and both do their part, there is no need to argue because it is what it is. The point is that people focus on those things in the relationship that neither of them have control over and make that a wedge.

Instead, couples should focus on what they do have with one another, or support one another. When a bunch of self made millionaires were interviewed about why and how they were successful, all of them stated that their spouse had a significant part in their success. Their willingness to listen, help, and support made all of the difference. Many of those self made millionaires needed their spouse to work and pay all of the bills why they built their fortune, often times for 3 or 4 years before a profit was even seen. Very few relationships have this kind of support and help from their spouse.

The third of reasons why marriages fail is due to lack of communication and affection. Few people take the time to show their spouse how much they mean to them and how important that person is to them. Affection and communication many times go hand in hand because communication is more than just the words we use. We need to clearly communicate what we want, need, and how much that other person means to us. My wife and I specifically chose a marriage ritual that included us getting together ever full moon and restating our vows to one another. This is so that we will take the time to be mindful every single month of how much we mean to one another, and how important we are to one another.